A New York State Of Mind
When it comes to those Americans with a stated abhorrence of same sex marriages, the truth of the matter is they’re being somewhat hypocritical. I don’t feel that any other person has the right to decide the level of another person’s commitment to someone they love. Nor do I have the right to decide who they should love. I stopped believing a long time ago that it was a choice. Too many of my friends committed suicide because of society’s insistence that homosexuality was a choice they made. Death was preferable to a lifetime of hiding who they were.
The argument that same sex marriages defile the sanctity of the married state isn’t going to convince me that same sex marriages are wrong. I have heard that allowing gays and lesbians to marry will lead to the destruction of marriage as we know it. Which leads me to the question: What is marriage as we know it?
In the United States, 2.4 million people marry every year. On the other hand, 1.2 million people in the US get divorced every year. Apparently in the US, the sanctity of marriage allows for the ignoring of the phrase “til death do us part”.
One of the stated objections to the allowance of same sex marriages is that it will lead to the total destruction of marriage as a union between two people. Funny thing, no where have I found any estimates of the number of committed homosexuals practicing Polygamy. There really isn’t any true data regarding the practice of acquiring multiple wives, however conservative estimates suggest that there are 50,000 polygamists practicing in the US. It’s not something most men want to talk about since it might lead to part of their lives being interrupted by a stint in prison. Funny thing, that estimate is the number of heterosexual people committing polygamy. Marriage sanctity?
The Bible gives weight to the sanctity of marriage by it’s inclusion of the seventh commandment. “Thou shall NOT commit adultery”. Which gets ignored by a full 50% of those 1.2 MILLION residents of the US who find themselves in divorce court. The actual number of adults committing adultery may be as high as 80% of those 2.4 million people who marry every year in the US. Mind you, there is no commandment against homosexuality, but there is one against adultery. Which few seem to pay attention to. I suppose you could argue and say that the Bible states somewhere that homosexuality is a sin. Fine, you do that and I’m going to ask you if you’ve ever broken the seventh commandment. Not committing adultery is a commandment, not something found somewhere in the Bible and interpreted to mean whatever some righteous, holier than thou adulterer wants it to mean.
As of July 24, 2011 gays and lesbians have the RIGHT to marry in New York State. Finally, a legislative body made up of imperfect people gave ALL other imperfect people the same rights and protections under the laws granted by marriage in this state. The reason I say all instead of NYS residents, is because there is no residency requirement included in this act. There is a clause protecting righteous religious groups from being sued for refusing to marry gays and lesbians. Seems to me, given the statistics, they should be more concerned about those members of the group who seem not to be able to follow that seventh commandment.