When it comes to those Americans with a stated  abhorrence of same sex marriages, the truth of the matter is they’re being somewhat hypocritical. I don’t feel that any other person has the right to decide the level of another person’s commitment to someone they love. Nor do I have the right to decide who they should love. I stopped believing a long time ago that it was a choice. Too many of my friends committed suicide because of society’s insistence that homosexuality was a choice they made. Death was preferable to a lifetime of hiding who they were.

The argument that same sex marriages defile the sanctity of the married state isn’t going to convince me that same sex marriages are wrong. I have heard that allowing gays and lesbians to marry will lead to the destruction of marriage as we know it. Which leads me to the question: What is marriage as we know it?

In the United States, 2.4 million people marry every year. On the other hand, 1.2 million people in the US get divorced every year. Apparently in the US, the sanctity of marriage allows for the ignoring of the phrase “til death do us part”.

One of the stated objections to the allowance of same sex marriages is that it will lead to the total destruction of marriage as a union between two people. Funny thing, no where have I found any estimates of the number of committed homosexuals practicing Polygamy. There really isn’t any true data regarding the practice of acquiring multiple wives, however conservative estimates suggest that there are 50,000 polygamists practicing in the US. It’s not something most men want to talk about since it might lead to part of their lives being interrupted by a stint in prison. Funny thing, that estimate is the number of heterosexual people committing polygamy. Marriage sanctity?

The Bible gives weight to the sanctity of marriage by it’s inclusion of the seventh commandment. “Thou shall NOT commit adultery”. Which gets ignored by a full 50% of those 1.2 MILLION residents of the US who find themselves in divorce court. The actual number of adults committing adultery may be as high as 80% of those 2.4 million people who marry every year in the US.  Mind you, there is no commandment against homosexuality, but there is one against adultery. Which few seem to pay attention to. I suppose you could argue and say that the Bible states somewhere that homosexuality is a sin. Fine, you do that and I’m going to ask you if you’ve ever broken the seventh commandment. Not committing adultery is a commandment, not something found somewhere in the Bible and interpreted to mean whatever some righteous, holier than thou adulterer wants it to mean.

As of July 24, 2011 gays and lesbians have the RIGHT to marry in New York State. Finally, a legislative body made up of imperfect people gave ALL other imperfect people the same rights and protections under the laws granted by marriage in this state. The reason I say all instead of NYS residents, is because there is no residency requirement included in this act. There is a clause protecting righteous religious groups from being sued for refusing to marry gays and lesbians. Seems to me, given the statistics, they should be more concerned about those members of the group who seem not to be able to follow that seventh commandment.

By Butterose

Smart assed step-mother of 3, grandmother of 3. Insane enough to have lived with Hubby for 24 years now. What can I say, I liked his kids? We share our lives with family and our cat.

2 thoughts on “A New York State Of Mind”
  1. An AMEN???? 😀

    Given how others look upon those who are homosexual, would you make the choice if there was an alternative? Two of my friends took enough sleeping pills to kill an elephant and one of them blew his brains out. That, and the fact that I’ve never found a woman sexually attractive made me stop and think about what is and what isn’t a choice. Sexual orientation is NOT a choice no matter how hard some people work to make it one.

    There are ministers in actual churches here who are happy about this. There are those actually still teaching love and acceptance of all people no matter their sexual orientation.

    And all those who wish to consider that sinning need to look at their own lives first. 😉

  2. Can I hear an ‘ AMEN! ‘ 😀 I’ve long been an advocate of allowing people to be who they are or want to be as long as it’s not harming anyone else. If three lesbians, two homosexuals, a transvestite, and a transsexual want to shack-up and get married all the more power to them.

    The same people who are against gay marriage are the same people who don’t want that black family moving into the house next door, or want that job having to work for an Asian, or gawd forbid a Mexican… we need to seriously re-valuate our archaic puritan values as a society and just let people live their own lives, as long as it doesn’t directly interfere with others lives.

    What two, or more, ‘ consenting adults ‘ ( < that's the key phrase 😉 ) want to do with their lives is no ones business but their own, and they should be entitled to all the same privileges afforded others.

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